Hello and welcome! I’m so glad you’re here. My name is Bernice Tyler-Graddy, and I’m the founder of BTG COACHING & CONSULTING. This blog,...

Week 1: When Nothing Is Wrong; Learning to Be Comfortable With Peace “Be still, and know that I am God.” — Psalm 46:10 (KJV) There are mornings when I wake up and nothing is wrong. No urgent phone call. No problem waiting for me to solve. No unexpected news that changes the course of the day. No crisis requiring an immediate response. Just morning. I am learning not to take those days for granted. After living through seasons when life seemed to change faster than I could a

Becoming While I’m Still Becoming Trusting God With the Parts of My Story That Are Still Being Written "Being confident of this very thing, that he which hath begun a good work in you will perform it until the day of Jesus Christ."— Philippians 1:6 (KJV) As I come to the end of this series, I realize something. Nothing I've written about is finished. The circumstances that inspired these reflections haven't all changed. Some prayers I'm praying today are the same prayers I

HAPPY ANNIVERSARY BTG!! Today, August 18, BTG Coaching & Consulting LLC celebrates one year. And my heart is filled with gratitude. One year ago, I stepped forward with a vision rooted in three simple but powerful words: Peace. Power. Purpose. I didn't know every place this journey would lead. I simply knew that I had been entrusted with experiences, lessons, gifts, and a desire to help others grow. Over this first year, BTG has created resources, workshops, devotionals,

All Is Well... In Spite Of Choosing Faith When My Feelings Tell Another Story "Thou wilt keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on thee: because he trusteth in thee."— Isaiah 26:3 (KJV) Every morning I wake up with a choice. Some days the circumstances waiting for me haven't changed. The concerns are still there. The prayers haven't all been answered the way I would like. There are people I love who are hurting, situations I cannot fix, and things I simply don't u

When the Journey Doesn't Follow the Plan: Finding Purpose in the Roads I Never Expected to Travel "A man's heart deviseth his way: but the LORD directeth his steps."— Proverbs 16:9 (KJV) The older I get, the less I believe my experiences belong only to me. I've always been a planner. I like knowing where I'm going, what needs to be done, and preferably when it's going to happen. Give me a goal, and chances are I'll have a plan for getting there. Life, however, hasn't alway

When God Doesn't Change Your Season... He Adds Another One "To everything there is a season, and a time to every purpose under heaven."— Ecclesiastes 3:1 (KJV) Have you noticed how difficult it has become to tell what season we're in just by looking at the weather? One day feels like spring, the next like autumn, and sometimes they seem to arrive together. Life has a way of doing the same thing. Instead of neatly ending one season before beginning another, it sometimes asks u

July Blog Series: The Life We Inherit, The Legacy We Leave “I have lived long enough to know that every year is a gift—but the real question is what we do with the gift.” On July 16, I celebrated 67 years of life. Sixty-seven years. When I say that out loud, I smile. Not because every one of those years was easy. They were not. My journey has included mountaintops and valleys, joy and pain, celebrations and heartbreak, victories and disappointments. I have known moments

July Blog Series: The Life We Inherit, The Legacy We Leave “Some dates remain on the calendar long after we stop buying the cake.” There are dates we remember without trying. We do not need a calendar notification. We do not need a social media reminder. We do not need someone to call and say, “Do you know what today is?” We know. The date lives somewhere inside us. For me, July holds several of those dates. It is my birthday month, but it is also a month filled with th

July Blog Series: The Life We Inherit, The Legacy We Leave “We spend part of our lives discovering what we inherited, and the rest deciding what we will leave behind.” There is something about a family reunion that changes as you get older. When I was younger, family gatherings were mostly about food, laughter, music, and seeing cousins I had not seen in a while. You showed up, hugged everybody, tried to remember which children belonged to whom, ate more than you planned, t

Honoring the Fathers, Mentors, and Men Whose Influence Helped Shape Who We Are Becoming Every relationship teaches us something. Some lessons arrive through encouragement. Others arrive through hardship. Some lessons inspire us to continue a tradition. Others challenge us to create a different path. As we conclude this month’s reflection on fathers and father figures, it is worth considering the lessons we carry with us today. Many of the beliefs, values, habits, and pers

What Fathers Teach Us About Success That Has Nothing to Do with Trophies, Titles, or Applause We live in a world that celebrates achievement. Awards are displayed. Promotions are announced. Milestones are shared. Accomplishments are applauded. There is nothing wrong with celebrating success. Achievement often reflects hard work, dedication, and perseverance. But there is something even more important than achievement. Character. Long after accomplishments fade from memor

A Reflection on Influence, Identity, and Legacy Father’s Day often causes us to think about the men who shaped our lives. For some, those memories come easily. For others, they are more complicated. Yet when we pause and reflect, many of us realize that the people who helped us stand were not always our biological fathers. Sometimes they were grandfathers. Sometimes they were uncles. Sometimes they were coaches, teachers, pastors, neighbors, or mentors. People who saw

The Role Fathers and Mentors Play in Shaping Confidence, Character, and Identity Confidence is often misunderstood. Many people think confidence is something we develop entirely on our own. They imagine it appears after enough success, experience, or achievement. But when we look more closely at our lives, we often discover something different. Confidence is frequently borrowed before it is built. Long before we believe in ourselves, someone else often believes in us first

How Fathers Shape Identity Through the Simple Gift of Showing Up As we begin celebrating fathers and father figures this month, I find myself thinking about a gift that is often overlooked. It is not a gift that can be wrapped in a box. It cannot be purchased in a store. It does not require wealth, status, or special talent. It is the gift of presence. Long after children forget the toys they received or the advice they were given, they often remember who showed up. They

May Series: A Mother’s Garden — Lessons from the Hive There are many ways to nurture. Many ways to give. Many ways to love. And on every Mother’s Day, we pause to honor them all. 🌿 For Every Woman Who Nurtures This space is for: The mothers who give endlessly. The grandmothers who carry wisdom and legacy. The caregivers who show up with compassion and strength. The women who have loved deeply— and the ones who carry loss quietly. The women who are still waiting. Still hop

May Series: A Mother’s Garden — Lessons from the Hive Some of the most important work in lifeis not what we see immediately… It is what grows later. 🌿 The Work That Multiplies Bees do more than gather nectar. As they move from flower to flower, they carry something with them—pollen. And in that quiet exchange, something powerful happens: Growth. Reproduction. New life. The beauty of pollination is that it often goes unnoticed. Yet without it, entire ecosystems would struggl

May Series: A Mother’s Garden — Lessons from the Hive Not all work is seen. Not all effort is celebrated. Not all sacrifice is acknowledged. Yet—some of the most meaningful things in life are built in those very spaces. 🌿 The Work That Keeps Everything Going In a hive, the worker bees carry the weight of daily life. They gather. They build. They maintain. They serve. Not for recognition—but because the life of the hive depends on it. And in so many ways…this mirrors the qui

May Series: A Mother’s Garden — Lessons from the Hive Some of the sweetest things in life do not begin that way. Honey, for example, begins as nectar collected in small amounts, gathered over time, transformed through a process we rarely see. What starts as something simple… becomes something rich, sustaining, and sweet. And in many ways, so does life. 🌿 The Process We Don’t Always See Bees do not produce honey instantly. It takes time. Consistency. Transformation. And of

May Series: A Mother’s Garden — Lessons from the Hive There is a quiet strength that often goes unnoticed. It does not demand attention. It does not compete for recognition. It does not announce itself loudly. Yet, it holds everything together. This is the strength of a mother. 🌿 The Power of Presence In the life of a hive, the queen bee is essential. Not because she controls every movement, but because her presence sustains the entire colony. Everything flows from her